Anger

You’ve been double-crossed, conned and deceived by this jerk, and you’re thinking he deserves a full-throated thrashing, chock-full of biting comments together with a full dose of your enmity. Doing so is justifiable because you’ll feel better having evened the score, playing the retaliator role. But, how do you really benefit from toting around this satchel full of ill-feeling? All of the time we expend avenging the wrongdoing is time (and energy) devoted to someone unworthy of it and who [...]

Displays of anger can work in your favor only if they strengthen your position going forward. I’ve seen football players kick over water coolers and tennis players obliterate their rackets in full display to fans and then come back and play better. The anger serves as a vehicle for catharsis freeing the individual from the situation considered responsible (rightly or wrongly) for its emergence in the first place. Anger displays that breed brooding and loathing and subsequently weaken your position [...]