I’ve found that self-esteem is all about control of your own life. And this control is contingent upon your ability to organize your life. This means following your own bent; not subjecting yourself to someone else’s “playbook” in place of your own; being able to access what you need when you need it; having discretionary time; and being in a position to concentrate on your most important priorities. […]
Not sleeping well? Do an assessment of your life circumstances first. What’s on your mind when your head hit the pillow at night? Is it the same issue or a number of different concerns? What’s keeping you from resolving these issues? If you were to resolve them, how would your life be different? This is the “between the ears” part of assessing the causes of your sleeplessness. […]
The color of a tablet or capsule can add a “placebo” boost to the therapeutic effects in real, legitimate drugs. […]
If you’re in a relationship with someone with whom you’re getting less than full cooperation – or if you’re getting cooperation but not moving forward – start questioning whether the two of you have common objectives and self-interests. […]
When something unexpectedly unpleasant happens, or even if you have evidence that something undesirable will befall you, search within yourself for the best possible interpretation of that event or circumstance. Depending on the gravity of what happened, initial shock or disbelief is normal, expected and warranted. But from that point forward, languishing is a way to continue punishing yourself. None of us get out of this life unscathed, we’ll all pay the piper in one way or another. We’re here [...]
On several occasions over the last few months, followers of my blog and previous seminar attendees have inquired about research studies they’ve come across regarding the use of Ketamine for the treatment of resistant Major Depressive Disorder and LSD for the management of traumatic nightmares linked to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. […]
Most people are overconfident in their judgment. A just-released Wall Street Journal survey indicates that when asked if they’ve made a serious financial mistake in the last five years, over 50 percent of respondents answered: Yes. A follow-up question yielded a more stunning result – 50 percent of them reported that they were confident in their ability to make sound financial decisions. […]
People who use online dating sites to find a potential mate are engaging in “sizzle” at first. They juice up their self-descriptions so as to present themselves as alluring, intriguing and of course, interesting. And why not, it all starts with the art of seduction. Sizzle fades though, and the interested parties then become focused on substance – that is, does the person have the potential to become a partner. And to gauge potential, they’ve got to meet. [...]
When someone is trying to “sell” you or “pitch” something to you, they’re usually coming from a position of arrogance, although it may also be ignorance. And if you hold firm opinions which counter their intentions, those who can’t debate with you very well will likely view you as the opposition. […]
I encounter people every day who tell me they feel as though they’re under a lot of pressure. Pressure – whether real or perceived – restricts us by masking our talents and undermining our abilities. It’s much like trying to compete in a swim meet with one hand tied behind your back. […]
