In the first week of November, a woman called my office to make an appointment. There was nothing extraordinary about the call, we set a day and a time and that was that. She showed up for the appointment on time and we began the process of getting acquainted. After helping her get comfortable in the office environment, a couple of ice breakers and some rapport building, I asked what brought her to seek my services. She described her presenting [...]
If you’re in a relationship with someone with whom you’re getting less than full cooperation – or if you’re getting cooperation but not moving forward – start questioning whether the two of you have common objectives and self-interests. […]
When something unexpectedly unpleasant happens, or even if you have evidence that something undesirable will befall you, search within yourself for the best possible interpretation of that event or circumstance. Depending on the gravity of what happened, initial shock or disbelief is normal, expected and warranted. But from that point forward, languishing is a way to continue punishing yourself. None of us get out of this life unscathed, we’ll all pay the piper in one way or another. We’re here [...]
Producing music is impossible without instruments to generate the sound. Similarly, resolutions are no more than abstract concepts unless they’re accompanied by assertive and concrete action steps to do something. Only the action steps will enforce the daily discipline and accountability needed to transform the resolution into improved performance and desired behavior. Otherwise, nothing measurable will happen. […]
Lots of bright, energetic, successful people aren’t operating anywhere within their sphere of peak capacity because they don’t manage time efficiently. And the more they strive to organize themselves, the less organized they remain. […]
Most people are overconfident in their judgment. A just-released Wall Street Journal survey indicates that when asked if they’ve made a serious financial mistake in the last five years, over 50 percent of respondents answered: Yes. A follow-up question yielded a more stunning result – 50 percent of them reported that they were confident in their ability to make sound financial decisions. […]
People who use online dating sites to find a potential mate are engaging in “sizzle” at first. They juice up their self-descriptions so as to present themselves as alluring, intriguing and of course, interesting. And why not, it all starts with the art of seduction. Sizzle fades though, and the interested parties then become focused on substance – that is, does the person have the potential to become a partner. And to gauge potential, they’ve got to meet. [...]
First, let’s establish that there is a difference between worry and concern. Concern embodies embracing the proper mindset for caring about important issues, decisions, events or conditions. It also means taking proper steps to create effective resolutions, monitoring their outcomes and making changes or modifications where necessary. […]
A couple of weeks ago while on business in Denver, I walked past a newsstand noting the headlines of two major newspapers. The Wall Street Journal: “Greek default looms large.” USA Today: “Afghan man recounts soldier’s deadly rampage.” […]
If it so happens that you’ve got a son or daughter living at home who is of age and gainfully employed, but seems to have little motivation or inclination to “launch” themselves and assume the responsibilities of rent, utilities and other costs associated with living on their own, try the following tactic – assuming you believe it is time for them to leave. […]
